Most dating coaches will work with anyone who can pay their fees. I don’t.
I just turned away three potential clients this week.
Not because they couldn’t pay. Because they wouldn’t play.
After years of coaching men in online dating, I’ve learned something that completely changed how I run my business: I turn away more potential clients than I accept.
And it’s not because I enjoy saying no to money. It’s because I discovered something that changed everything:
No amount of money is worth the stress, frustration, and energy drain that the wrong clients bring.
The Real Problem Isn’t Strategy
The strategy is never the problem.
I can hand any man the exact blueprint my clients use to go from invisible to irresistible. The magnetic profiles, standout photos, conversation frameworks, the confidence systems, everything.
But if you’re not willing to actually USE what I give you?
We’re both wasting our time.
I’ve worked with guys who had everything against them. Brutal breakups. Paralyzing social anxiety. Hadn’t touched a woman in years.
They still dominated, because they showed up ready to do the uncomfortable work.
But I’ve also worked with men who looked perfect on paper. Successful careers, good looks, all the motivation in the world…
Until it was time to actually change something.
The 6 Types of Men I Refuse to Work With
Through years of experience, I’ve identified specific patterns that predict failure, regardless of how much potential someone has. Here’s who I decline to work with:
The Excuse Maker – Every technique I share gets met with “Yeah, but that won’t work for MY situation because…” If you’ve already decided nothing will work, you’re right.
The Serial Ghoster – Gets a breakthrough, feels motivated for 48 hours, then disappears for three weeks, then acts confused why nothing changed. I’m running a coaching business, not playing hide and seek with grown men.
The Blame Game Champion – It’s his ex’s fault, women’s fault, dating apps’ fault, everyone’s fault except the guy in the mirror. I can’t coach someone who refuses to look at himself.
The Magic Pill Hunter – Wants the results without the discomfort, the transformation without putting in any effort. That’s not how this works.
The Pickup Predator – Just wants to manipulate women into bed with zero regard for their feelings or humanity. I teach authentic connection and win-win situations, not exploitation.
The Perfectionist Paralytic – Won’t take any action until he’s “ready” or until conditions are perfect. Still waiting for the perfect moment to start six months later. There is no perfect moment.
Why Standards Matter in Coaching
Look, I get it. Taking responsibility is hard. Changing ingrained patterns is uncomfortable. Putting yourself out there feels vulnerable.
But that’s exactly WHY most men never escape their dating prison.
I’m not your therapist, your cheerleader, or your mother. I’m here to hand you the keys to abundance, IF you’re man enough to turn them.
My successful clients don’t just get “better” results.
They get life-altering results.
But I only work with men who are ready to earn them.