You know that guy.
The one who gets 500 matches with shitty bathroom selfies.
The one who “just gets it” with women.
The one who tells you to “just be confident” or “just be yourself”.
The same guy who’s never had to think about what he’s doing right.
Never had to analyze why something works.
Never had to question his approach.
Never faced consistent rejection.
Because for him, it just “worked naturally”.
Here’s what these “naturals” never tell you:
They didn’t earn their confidence. They inherited it.
From day one, they got positive feedback loops:
✅ The early validation from girls.
✅ The constant attention.
✅ The social proof from friends.
✅ The reinforcement from every interaction.
Their confidence wasn’t built. It was given.
That’s why their advice is worse than useless:
❌ “Just be yourself” – when their “self” has been validated since childhood.
❌ “Just be confident” – when they’ve never faced constant rejection.
❌ “Just approach her” – when they’ve always gotten positive responses.
❌ “Just use selfies” – when even their worst photos still get compliments and matches.
They’re not lying.
They genuinely don’t understand.
They never had to.
For them, dating just “happened”.
For them, attraction was always “natural”.
For them, confidence was the default.
But here’s the truth they’ll never admit:
Being a “natural” often means never developing real depth.
Never truly understanding attraction.
Never having to build genuine confidence from zero.
They skipped the hard parts.
The self-doubt.
The confusion.
The real growth.
The deep understanding.
That’s why they can’t teach it.
That’s why they don’t get your struggle.
That’s why their advice feels empty.
And you know what? Today, I’m grateful I wasn’t a natural.
Because naturals might get results, but they rarely understand why.
Everything just works for them, but they can’t explain how.
They have no interest in figuring it out, they never needed to.
But those of us who had to learn?
We understand the subtle dynamics.
We see the patterns.
We know exactly what creates real attraction and genuine connection.
Your journey might be harder.
But it will give you something more valuable than easy matches:
Real understanding.
Deep insight.
True mastery.
Because true confidence isn’t inherited.
It’s built.
One real insight at a time.
Cheers,
Sandric