It’s time to talk about something very important as i’ve seen so many bad or average profiles in Online Dating groups lately.
The topic I want to talk about today is the current evolution of Online Dating.
Let me ask you this:
How would you play a game which you are destined to lose? 🎮
Here are the cold-hard numbers of 2024:
About 20% of the users of the most popular dating apps are women…
80% are men. (no surprise I guess haha)
Digging a bit deeper into these numbers:
To every woman, there are at least 3 men.
To every slightly attractive woman, there are at least 10 men.
To every beautiful, jaw-droppingly gorgeous, stunning woman (the kind of woman you probably want to meet), there are at least 30 men.
Conversely, this means that the top 20% of men are getting 80% of the women.
And the bottom 80% of men compete for the bottom 20% of women on online dating apps.
Now, if you want to meet the women that you truly desire on a dating app…
It is not enough if your profile is good.
Heck, it’s not even enough if your profile is great.
Your profile needs to be dripping with authenticity, masculinity, and attractiveness.
In short, it needs to be a top 1% profile, as powerful as the Infinity Gauntlet 👊🏾💥
Now, we are talking about online dating…
And I could say a lot of things about it that I already said in my previous articles…
🔥 It is the only medium that gives you full control over what kind of women you want to meet (provided your profile is amazing).
🔥 In no club or bar you have such an abundance of beautiful women only a swipe away as in the apps.
🔥 It gives you the freedom to talk to multiple women simultaneously and set up dates with them, which in real life you’d only be able to once humanity figures out how to clone people 😉
🔥 It saves you a lot of time because instead of walking around approaching women you can message them from the comfort of your home.
🔥 It saves you a ton of money that you’d otherwise spend in bars and nightclubs on entry or drinks 💸
(One Tinder subscription costs half as much as most guys spend on a night out, but lasts you for a month.)
🔥 It’s much easier to create a great (and fully authentic) first impression online than anywhere else if you aren’t 6’2, don’t have the looks of Captain America, or aren’t as wealthy as Tony Stark.
In summary, dating apps are the only dating medium where 𝘢𝘯𝘺 man can succeed.
This being said…
I have seen so many men who fired up a Tinder profile, put on some random pictures, crossed their fingers to succeed…
But ended up frustrated because of not getting the matches that they wanted… 😔
And ultimately gave up on the easiest way in history to meet women.
I’m going to tell you the secret that men who are dating the women whom you only dream about are keeping from you:
Unless a professional creates your dating profile and guides you through every step of online dating, including choosing photos, creating a bio, teaching you how to text, ask your matches out and behave on dates…
You are almost certainly bound to lose your matches to the men whose profiles were created by an expert.
This is bad news, because unless you have such an expert helping you, you are in possession of Thor’s skills but depowered from them (e.g. can’t lift the Mjølnir)…
But this is also good news, because when you are being supported by the right expert, then you are like Thor in Infinity War ⚡
Otherwise women will perceive you like Thor in Endgame 😜
Now most people think that the bio matters so much, when in reality it only makes up 10%.
The remaining 90% are your photos.
Let me repeat it, outstanding pictures are the MOST important factor in Online Dating.
Yet so many guys still roll with Selfies and bad quality pictures.
I know, crazy right?
If you put in zero effort into your profile, you’re going to get zero results.
Simple as that.
I think you should value your time much more than to waste it online with a mediocre dating profile.
But can I be honest?
In 2024, even having a friend take your pictures WON’T cut it if your goal is to meet gorgeous high quality women.
Instead, you need professional pictures.
Seriously, I can’t stress this enough, because it’s so important.
Let’s think about it for a second:
Who would most likely have professional pictures?
Every successful or attractive man that cares about his presentation.
They’ll either have professional pictures for their website, their LinkedIn or even just for Social Media, because first impressions matter.
But why is this so crucial especially when it comes to Online Dating?
Because of an equation no one wants to admit.
- 𝗕𝗮𝗱 𝗽𝗵𝗼𝘁𝗼𝘀 = 𝗛𝗼𝗿𝗿𝗶𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘂𝗹𝘁𝘀
- 𝗔𝘃𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗣𝗵𝗼𝘁𝗼𝘀 = 𝗕𝗲𝗹𝗼𝘄 𝗮𝘃𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘂𝗹𝘁𝘀
- 𝗚𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗽𝗵𝗼𝘁𝗼𝘀 = 𝗔𝘃𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘂𝗹𝘁𝘀
- 𝗚𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁 𝗽𝗵𝗼𝘁𝗼𝘀 = 𝗚𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘂𝗹𝘁𝘀
- 𝗘𝘅𝗰𝗲𝗽𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗽𝗵𝗼𝘁𝗼𝘀 = 𝗘𝘅𝗰𝗲𝗽𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘂𝗹𝘁𝘀
Let that sink in for a second.
Fact is:
Even with “good photos“, you’re NOT getting “good results“.
Because not only are there way more men than women on dating apps…
But especially since the pandemic came, every man and their dad’s started taking their profiles to the next level.
This means your profile needs to be fucking exceptional if you want the highest quality matches.
The good news is, most men are clueless when it comes to online dating.
So it has never been easier to stand out.
If you have an outstanding profile and great text game, you’re barely going to have any competition.
As 90% of men include AT LEAST one picture which drags down the entire attractiveness of their profile.
I don’t care if you have 4 amazing pics, if the 5th is less amazing that’s how you’ll be perceived by women.
Now to some men hiring a professional Photographer might seem “crazy“ or “overkill“.
Sure, there’s definitely some truth to that.
But to me, it’s even crazier to be unhappy with your dating life for months and years without doing something to change it.
You don’t need to look like Ryan Gosling or Channing Tatum either to get great results.
It just all starts with your photos.
They need to portray the vibe of:
- “I’m a fun, confident, care-free guy, and if you hang out with me, you’re going to have a blast.“
- “I’m a successful, ambitious guy, with a purpose in life and confident enough to pursue my goals“
The funny thing is, I never thought of myself as good looking or photogenic and up to this day I still don’t.
Throughout my entire child and adulthood nobody ever told me that I was good looking.
And to nobody’s surprise I also used to look like shit in pictures.
It was only once I started educating myself about posing, expressions, angles, lighting and fashion that people suddenly started telling me how good I look in real life and in photos.
Here you can see various pictures of me taken in the last few years.
First photo
It’s just a boring selfie in front of some stairs.
As you can probably tell, It had been quite a while since I visited the Barber.
The phone camera leads to a distortion of my face plus it’s not my most flattering angle.
The artificial light is horrible but at least there is chocolate in the background though, we all know chocolate is bae.
Second photo
It’s a picture on vacation and obviously better than a selfie, however I wouldn’t use this on Dating apps.
I’m just sitting somewhere and flexing on purpose which is extremely tryhard.
My entire face is overshadowed and my eyes aren’t visible.
Also I’m looking to the side as if I weren’t even aware that I’m being photographed.
That’s not gonna fool anyone, from this frontal angle it’s quite obvious.
And to be honest, my shorts look like I’ve stolen them from my girlfriend.
Third photo
Sunglasses are a no go and make me look like “Mr. too cool for school“.
I’m randomly pointing to a door to avoid just standing around, but it still looks very weird.
This picture adds no value at all, it’s just me and a door having a conversation about the meaning of life lol.
But hey, at least my buddy the door and I look cool right as “looking cool“ is the only thing most guys care about anyway.
Fourth photo
This is a high quality shot taken by a professional photographer who’s aware of sub communications and knows what will get matches in Online Dating.
I was just at the Barber the day before who gave me a fresh haircut and trimmed my beard.
My fashion is on point, I look confident, dominant and like a man on a mission.
It was taken from an angle that accentuates my height and gives me a masculine jawline.
The background is very authentic to my outfit and it makes sense for me to be there.
Unlike so many guys I see posing for a photo in the woods while wearing a damn suit. (Best way to come across as a serial killer, if anyone was wondering )
Of course I also retouched this picture professionally so it really stands out.
Every piece of the puzzle just fits and the photo paints a story.
I hope you’re starting to understand something very important.
𝗢𝗻𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝗗𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝗷𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗿𝗲, 𝗶𝗻𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗮𝗱 𝗶𝘁 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝗮 𝗹𝗼𝘁 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗱𝗼 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗽𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳.
And I just know I’m going to get this question…
So let me address it right away:
𝗗𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗵𝗶𝗿𝗲 𝗮 𝗽𝗵𝗼𝘁𝗼𝗴𝗿𝗮𝗽𝗵𝗲𝗿?
Look, none of this is mandatory.
But ask yourself:
“What do I want my dating life to look like?“
If you’re happy to settle for less than you strive for, then throwing up some random selfies and photos your friend took of you is alright.
But if you want the best possible results and true abundance?
You 100% have to hire a professional photographer.
However when you do, there’s no room for sloppiness.
This means fitting clothes, good haircut, well-groomed, and relaxed in front of the camera.
Also you as well as the photographer both need to have knowledge when it comes to posing, expressions, fashion and the female psyche
Because a great photo is always the result of the photographer and the “model“ working together.
If even one, you or the photographer doesn’t know what to do the photo won’t turn out great.
However, Investing in your photos is one of the most worthwhile things you can do.
Don’t half-ass literally the key factor of online dating and you will be good.
I’m 99% sure you are nowhere near your true online dating potential.
Go search for a lifestyle photographer in your area and set it up.
But Sandric, how do I know when I have exceptional photos?
Good question.
You’re on the right track when you see a picture of yourself and think…
“Holy Shit, I barely recognize myself. I look fucking amazing.“
Also your pictures should be rated at least a 9 on Photofeeler.
Ideally a 9.5 or higher on the attractiveness scale with at least 40 votes.
As I explained in a previous article, you shouldn’t take that website too seriously.
However, it’s great to get a rough impression of which photos women find most attractive.
Just take a look at the last photo I attached to the article where women rated one of my best performing pictures.
I’m definitely NOT a 10 in real life, but even if you should be “average looking“ it’s possible to get a similar score there.
Now obviously there’s a chance you won’t nail your “perfect photos“ the first time.
That’s okay, because Modeling is actually way harder than one would think.
However, the magic that happens when you pull it off is incredible.
And just in case you want my help with all of this without having to literally shoot in the dark…
Feel free to click on the button below.
I’m looking forward to talk to you, see how exactly to help you and if working together would be a win-win situation.
Cheers,
Sandric