My assistant coaches and I are constantly writing new posts for our students.
Usually they’re only being posted in our secret Dating Superheroes group.
In fact, I have never made even one of them public before, because they are insanely valuable.
However, I’m sick and tired of seeing guys screw up during texting conversations.
So many guys make basic Textgame mistakes that decide between:
– Waking up next to the woman of their dreams
– Getting ghosted on the app and never even meeting her in person.
So that’s why today I’ll share with you the 10 key commandments you should follow when texting women:
𝟭. 𝗪𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗻 𝗟𝗢𝗩𝗘 𝗮 𝗺𝗮𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗱𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗲𝘀 𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗻𝘀
Don’t always ask her, but take the lead and suggest something to her.
Nothing is more attractive to women than a man that can make plans and doesn’t always ask her what she wants to do.
Of course I don’t mean this in a sexist way, you should also consider a woman’s feelings and allow her to make decisions.
But especially when it comes to Online Dating, women will rarely take the lead and ask you out as this is considered your job.
However, If your profile is absolutely amazing and you’re exactly her type it can still happen that she asks you out.
𝟮. 𝗦𝘁𝗼𝗽 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝘂𝗽 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗮 𝗯𝗮𝗱 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗳𝗶𝗹𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗴𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗧𝗲𝘅𝘁𝗴𝗮𝗺𝗲
“He has horrible pictures and portrays himself like shit, but damn the way he texted made me love him“
– No woman ever
The profile is the fucking foundation of a house, without one you can’t build a house.
Of course you also need windows, walls, a roof etc. but the foundation is crucial.
If you have a good profile, good Textgame and know what you are doing women will start to chase you, invest more and give you compliments.
They might even ask you out for a date, but what they’ll definitely do is ask more questions, give longer replies and use Emojis which is an indication that you triggered something in them.
99% of guys on Dating apps have rational smalltalk conversations and will never trigger anything in women except for boredom or disgust.
𝟯. 𝗡𝗘𝗩𝗘𝗥 𝗿𝗮𝗻𝗱𝗼𝗺𝗹𝘆 𝗮𝘀𝗸 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗻𝘂𝗺𝗯𝗲𝗿, 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝗮𝗹𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗮 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗻 𝘄𝗵𝘆 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝗶𝘁
Always give a woman context on why you want her number and ask for it on a high note = emotional point of a conversation where she’s reacting very positively.
The number is simply a means to an end to make plans, not a trophy for you to collect and brag to your friends about.
𝟰. 𝗨𝘀𝗲 𝗘𝗺𝗼𝗷𝗶𝘀 𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆 𝘀𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴𝗹𝘆, 𝗷𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝗽𝗲𝗽𝗽𝗲𝗿 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝗮𝗹𝘁 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗰𝗼𝗼𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴
Too much of it can ruin a meal, but just the right amount and it will taste delicious.
In fact, using too many Emojis completely flips the dynamic as it makes you seem like a child.
Most men use too many Emojis because they are afraid that women could misinterpret their message and stop replying.
Women feel that and there is a simple solution to this:
Phrase your messages in the clearest way possible, so there is simply no room for misinterpretation.
If you give women room for interpretation, they’ll always interpret your message depending on their current emotional state and in most cases that’s the worst possible way for you.
𝟱. 𝗦𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗿𝗲𝗰𝗶𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗿 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗿𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁
When a woman does something u wanted her to do for example reply positively to a message of yours, you want to show her your appreciation for it so she shows more of the same behavior down the line.
On the other hand when she does something you absolutely don’t like, let her know in a playful way like for example tease her for it or subtract brownie points.
𝟲. 𝗔𝗹𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸 𝗮𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗱 𝗼𝗳 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗼
The end goal is the in person date, not becoming her pen pal or stroking your ego because an attractive woman is texting with you.
A conversation on dating apps is like chess, you want to already think 2 steps ahead of her and anticipate her response.
𝟳. 𝗧𝗿𝘆 𝘁𝗼 𝗮𝘃𝗼𝗶𝗱 𝗛𝗮𝗵𝗮’𝘀, 𝗹𝗼𝗹’𝘀 𝗼𝗿 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗻𝗲𝘁𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗮𝗸
You’re not a little boy but a grown ass man.
Imagine Thor, James Bond, The Rock, Vin Diesel or Channing Tatum.
Do you think those men will use Lol’s, Haha’s and lmao’s all the time?
Nah, because they’re attractive, masculine men.
𝟴. 𝗗𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝘀𝗵𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿 𝘄𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗻 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗶𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀
Use them when you’re really surprised that she has a personality trait you value or to make her feel better if she’s behaving in the way you appreciate.
It’s always better to make a compliment about something she enjoys, a personality trait of hers or her taste rather than her God given looks.
Just trust me, she’ll appreciate that way more, especially since the majority of men on dating apps hand out compliments as if there was no tomorrow.
𝟵. 𝗕𝗲 𝘀𝘂𝗰𝗰𝗶𝗻𝗰𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗺𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗮𝗴𝗲𝘀
Again, imagine Thor, James Bond, The Rock, Vin Diesel or Channing Tatum.
Men who are attractive to women, have options and a life.
They don’t have the time to write novels because it would be like a full time Job.
I know, you might think “but it’s just that one woman that I’m writing to so much“.
However, if it’s really only that one woman you’re writing to so much, then you’ve probably already put her on a pedestal.
By idealizing her and seeing her as some kind of goddess, you’re going to make a ton of mistakes and show supplicating behavior down the line.
But guess what?
She also has to go to the toilet and it doesn’t smell like rose petals and fairy dust.
I know, shocking right.
She’s just a normal human being with her own life problems and imperfections, not some kind of flawless goddess.
Also, put yourself in her shoes for a moment.
if she thinks you have options because your profile is damn attractive, she’ll assume you’re also talking to many other women.
So if you text her this much she’ll immediately assume that you’re texting this much to all women and if you have the time to do that you probably don’t have many options or an interesting life.
Besides, the person investing the most in a conversation is chasing the other one.
In the best case scenario you want the woman to chase you, not the other way around.
That’s why you should try to say whatever you want to say in as few words as possible while still getting your message across.
𝟭𝟬. 𝗔𝗰𝘁 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝗮 𝗻𝗼𝗿𝗺𝗮𝗹, 𝗲𝗺𝗽𝗮𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘁𝗶𝗰 𝗵𝘂𝗺𝗮𝗻 𝗯𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴
Have some understanding that there are certain safety concerns women have and they just want to know that you’re trustworthy and a good guy.
Most guys on Dating apps are either creepy, nice guys, desperate or dancing monkeys.
If you show women that you’re down to earth and not any of those you’re already ahead of the competition.
When I say “nice guys“ I don’t mean that being friendly and nice is a bad thing.
But so-called “nice guys“ are usually nice because they have an agenda and want something in return for being nice and friendly.
This behavior is highly unattractive to women and for a good reason.
That’s it guys.
Do your best to internalize those commandments as if your life depended upon it.
I promise you, just by following them your conversations will improve a lot.
On that note, if you don’t just want to get help with your mindset, profile, textgame and date behavior…
…But also have me and my team of coaches supporting you every step of the way until you’re either in a relationship with the woman of your dreams or simply enjoying an abundant dating life as a happy single, then feel free to reach out.
However, I don’t want to give my secrets away to people who will misuse them.
If you have bad intentions, you will be denied.
I’m looking for good men who will use this information to improve their lives and give infinite value to the women they date.
See you on the other side.