How vulnerability gets you abundance with women in Online Dating

There are a lot of books about dating or self development out there and most are a huge waste of time.⁣.
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They just teach you some weird PUA bullshit techniques or tell you that you need to put on a mask because women are attracted to a certain type of man.⁣
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So instead of teaching me how to become the best version of myself, they just taught me how to pretend that I’m someone else.⁣
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Today I want to introduce you to one gem that in my opinion every man on this planet earth should read. ⁣
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This book has significantly impacted my life and changed the entire way I behaved and saw interactions with women or people in general. ⁣
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𝗠𝗼𝗱𝗲𝗹𝘀 – 𝗔𝘁𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁 𝘄𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵 𝗵𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘁𝘆⁣
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As you know I’m a big believer in honesty and authenticity, but it hasn’t always been that way. ⁣
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In the past when interacting with women or life in general I was often inauthentic. ⁣
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Trying to use techniques or pretending to be someone I’m not. ⁣
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I thought women wouldn’t like me for who I am.⁣
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This led to me putting on a mask when talking to women. ⁣
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So if a woman rejected me they never rejected the “real me“, I could always blame it on the mask and it didn’t hurt as much. ⁣
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I know it might sound stupid to some, but humans are willing to do a lot to avoid pain.⁣
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Only once I read “Models“ for the first time, it opened up my eyes to how much easier life could be if we were radically honest and authentic.⁣
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Since then I’ve read the English and German versions multiple times as well as listened to the audiobook on Audible. ⁣
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The book talks about how vulnerability is actually a strength instead of a weakness.⁣
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In society we’ve been taught certain gender roles. ⁣
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Men need to be “alpha“ and shouldn’t show any sign of weakness. ⁣
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Only women are “allowed“ to be more emotional.⁣
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But that’s a huge misconception and definitely not true. ⁣
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Mark Manson was the first and only person to teach me how to express myself in an honest way with women. ⁣
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To say exactly what I think or feel at any moment (even though it might be extremely hard).⁣
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Expressing my thoughts unfiltered, while still being socially intuitive.⁣
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To be honest, at first I thought that advice was bullshit. ⁣
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Why would a woman care about how I feel?⁣
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Why would she care about my goals and my dreams?⁣
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Shouldn’t men always be the “alpha“ rock and not express any emotions?⁣
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Why would I share my insecurities with a woman I’m attracted to? ⁣
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Wouldn’t that make her think I’m a weak man or maybe even crybaby?⁣
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I was totally confused, because his advice was the complete opposite of everything else that I watched or read about women up to this point.⁣
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I thought I always had to be (or pretend to be) the self amused alpha man that doesn’t give a f*ck about anything.⁣
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But since nothing I had tried so far really worked out for me, I decided to just be open minded and follow everything he outlines in his book. ⁣
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After initial problems to really open myself up and be vulnerable, to my surprise it worked like a charm. ⁣
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Women didn’t see me as a low value whiny crybaby, but instead saw me as a high value man.⁣
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I was one of the only men (or should I say people?) they were able to connect with because I was REAL.⁣
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This realisation was so mind blowing that from there on I started to really live by his methods.⁣
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Women suddenly rarely ghosted me anymore and weren’t hesitant to come back to my place either.⁣⁣

But the best part was that I didn’t need to hold back on anything that I felt anymore, because “women might not like or be attracted to it“. ⁣
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This freedom of expression is indescribable.⁣
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Of course I also recommended the book to all of my friends who were “PUA’s“ following the inauthentic methods I used to follow.⁣
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And as I expected, it worked much better for them too. ⁣
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There’s one passage in particular from the book that really opened my eyes and blew my mind.⁣
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𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒄𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅 𝒔𝒂𝒚 𝒎𝒆𝒏 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒘𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒏 𝒂𝒍𝒎𝒐𝒔𝒕 𝒔𝒑𝒆𝒂𝒌 𝒕𝒘𝒐 𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒓𝒆𝒍𝒚 𝒅𝒊𝒇𝒇𝒆𝒓𝒆𝒏𝒕 𝒍𝒂𝒏𝒈𝒖𝒂𝒈𝒆𝒔.⁣
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𝑴𝒆𝒏 𝒎𝒐𝒔𝒕𝒍𝒚 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒎𝒖𝒏𝒊𝒄𝒂𝒕𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒇𝒂𝒄𝒕𝒔, 𝒔𝒕𝒐𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒔 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒅𝒂𝒕𝒂.⁣
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𝑾𝒆 𝒅𝒊𝒔𝒄𝒖𝒔𝒔 𝒔𝒑𝒐𝒓𝒕𝒔 𝒔𝒕𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒔𝒕𝒊𝒄𝒔, 𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝒘𝒆 𝒇𝒊𝒙𝒆𝒅 𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒄𝒂𝒓 𝒍𝒂𝒔𝒕 𝒘𝒆𝒆𝒌𝒆𝒏𝒅 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒘𝒆 𝒑𝒍𝒂𝒏 𝒐𝒏 𝒈𝒐𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒏𝒆𝒙𝒕 𝒎𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒉.⁣
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𝑰𝒇 𝒂 𝒎𝒂𝒏 𝒔𝒂𝒚𝒔, “𝑰’𝒍𝒍 𝒔𝒆𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒂𝒕 6 𝑷𝑴”, 𝒉𝒆 𝒕𝒚𝒑𝒊𝒄𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒚 𝒎𝒆𝒂𝒏𝒔 𝒊𝒕 𝒍𝒊𝒕𝒆𝒓𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒚..⁣
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𝑾𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒏 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒎𝒖𝒏𝒊𝒄𝒂𝒕𝒆 𝒎𝒐𝒓𝒆 𝒊𝒏 𝒇𝒆𝒆𝒍𝒊𝒏𝒈𝒔 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒔𝒑𝒆𝒄𝒊𝒇𝒊𝒄𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒚, 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔.⁣
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𝑺𝒖𝒓𝒆, 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒚 𝒔𝒕𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒑𝒂𝒚 𝒂𝒕𝒕𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏 𝒕𝒐 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒇𝒂𝒄𝒕𝒔 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒔𝒕𝒐𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒔 𝒈𝒐𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒐𝒏 𝒐𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒖𝒓𝒇𝒂𝒄𝒆, 𝒃𝒖𝒕 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕’𝒔 𝒂𝒄𝒕𝒖𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒚 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒎𝒖𝒏𝒊𝒄𝒂𝒕𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒎 𝒊𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒇𝒆𝒆𝒍𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒖𝒏𝒅𝒆𝒓𝒏𝒆𝒂𝒕𝒉..⁣
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𝑻𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒊𝒔 𝒂𝒍𝒔𝒐 𝒘𝒉𝒚 𝒂 𝒎𝒂𝒏 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒔𝒕𝒖𝒅𝒚 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒍𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒃𝒆𝒔𝒕 𝒑𝒊𝒄𝒌 𝒖𝒑 𝒍𝒊𝒏𝒆𝒔 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒆𝒔, 𝒘𝒂𝒍𝒌 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒐 𝒂 𝒃𝒂𝒓, 𝒅𝒆𝒍𝒊𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒎 𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒇𝒆𝒄𝒕𝒍𝒚 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒏𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒐𝒇 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒎 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒌.⁣
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𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒐𝒎𝒂𝒏 𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒔 𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒍𝒊𝒏𝒆𝒔, 𝒃𝒖𝒕 𝒔𝒉𝒆’𝒔 𝒍𝒊𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒏𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒐 𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔.⁣
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𝑨𝒏𝒅 𝒊𝒇 𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒔𝒂𝒚𝒊𝒏𝒈, “𝑰 𝒘𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒕𝒐 𝒊𝒎𝒑𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒔 𝒚𝒐𝒖, 𝒑𝒍𝒆𝒂𝒔𝒆 𝒍𝒊𝒌𝒆 𝒎𝒆”, 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝒊𝒕 𝒅𝒐𝒆𝒔𝒏’𝒕 𝒎𝒂𝒕𝒕𝒆𝒓 𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝒈𝒐𝒐𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒍𝒊𝒏𝒆𝒔 𝒂𝒓𝒆.⁣
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𝑺𝒉𝒆’𝒔 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒈𝒐𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒐 𝒍𝒊𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒏 𝒕𝒐 𝒉𝒊𝒎.⁣
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After reading this part of the book, I finally understood women.⁣
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Now all of this can also be applied when it comes to Online Dating. ⁣
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Men always think it’s what’s in the pictures that matters. ⁣
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But in reality it’s what’s underneath or behind the pictures. ⁣
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Your sub communications, body language, the general vibe of the picture, how relaxed you seem, etc.⁣
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Women care about the emotions that your pictures evoke in them and the story your profile paints. ⁣
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Much more than about how badass and cool you look wearing those sunglasses or how defined your abs are.⁣
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They want to know who you are as a person and what going on a date with you would be like.⁣
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And definitely not that you drive an expensive car, have traveled to 20+ countries, speak 5 languages and built 2 companies while riding a unicycle. ⁣
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To finish it off, if there is only one book about dating that I recommend you to read it’s “Models – attract women through honesty“ by

Mark Manson.⁣

Just read it and thank me later. ⁣

Cheers, ⁣
Sandric