You’re standing at a crossroads.
In front of you are two doors, one red, one blue…
You know exactly what you want: matches with women who actually excite you. Women who are attractive, intelligent, and genuinely interested in getting to know you. You want conversations that flow naturally instead of dying after three messages.
๐ฌ๐ผ๐ ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ป ๐๐ฒ๐ฒ ๐ผ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐ด๐๐๐ ๐ด๐ฒ๐๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฒ๐ ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐๐น๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐๐ฒ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐๐๐น๐๐.
The bartender at your local spot who’s always talking about his latest date. Your coworker who seems to effortlessly meet quality women online. That guy from your gym who’s dating someone way out of what you thought was his league.
๐๐ป๐ฑ ๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ฒ๐ฝ ๐ฑ๐ผ๐๐ป, ๐๐ผ๐ ๐ธ๐ป๐ผ๐ ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ฐ๐๐ฟ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ป๐ ๐ฎ๐ฝ๐ฝ๐ฟ๐ผ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ต ๐ถ๐๐ป’๐ ๐๐ผ๐ฟ๐ธ๐ถ๐ป๐ด.
๐ต ๐ง๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐น๐๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ผ๐ฟ: Keep doing what you’re doing. Keep using those corporate headshot photos. Keep writing bios that read like resumes. Keep getting maybe one match a week with women you’re not even excited about. Stay comfortable believing that โthe right woman will appreciate the real meโ while getting zero results.
๐ด ๐ง๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฅ๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐๐ผ๐ผ๐ฟ: Accept the uncomfortable truth. Your current strategy is completely wrong. The photos that make you look โprofessionalโ make you invisible to women. The bio that lists your accomplishments bores them to death. The energy that makes you successful at work repels them on dating apps.
What the Blue Door Reality Looks Like
๐ ๐ผ๐ป๐ฑ๐ฎ๐: You open your dating app. Zero new matches. You swipe through 50 profiles of attractive women, knowing none of them will swipe right on you.
๐ง๐๐ฒ๐๐ฑ๐ฎ๐: One new match with someone you’re not excited about. You send a thoughtful message. She responds with one word. The conversation dies.
๐ช๐ฒ๐ฑ๐ป๐ฒ๐๐ฑ๐ฎ๐: You update your bio again, adding another accomplishment, thinking โmaybe this will helpโ. Plot twist: It doesn’t.
๐ง๐ต๐๐ฟ๐๐ฑ๐ฎ๐: You see that bartender from your local spot posting Instagram stories with another attractive woman. You wonder what he has that you don’t.
๐๐ฟ๐ถ๐ฑ๐ฎ๐: Another week, same results. You tell yourself โdating apps just don’t work for guys like meโ.
๐ฆ๐ฎ๐๐๐ฟ๐ฑ๐ฎ๐: You’re home alone while your social media feeds are full of couples doing fun weekend activities. You wonder what it would be like to have someone to share weekends with.
๐ฆ๐๐ป๐ฑ๐ฎ๐: Another weekend ends exactly like it started, alone. You tell yourself โnext week will be differentโ but deep down you know it won’t be.
๐ฆ๐ถ๐ ๐บ๐ผ๐ป๐๐ต๐ ๐ณ๐ฟ๐ผ๐บ ๐ป๐ผ๐: Exact same cycle. Exact same frustration. Exact same excuses.
What the Red Door Reality Looks like
๐ ๐ผ๐ป๐ฑ๐ฎ๐: You open your dating app to 3-4 new quality matches. Women who actually took the time to read your bio and reference something specific in their first message.
๐ง๐๐ฒ๐๐ฑ๐ฎ๐: You’re having engaging conversations with multiple women who seem genuinely interested in meeting you.
๐ช๐ฒ๐ฑ๐ป๐ฒ๐๐ฑ๐ฎ๐: You get a message from a woman you matched with yesterday asking if you want to grab drinks this weekend.
๐ง๐ต๐๐ฟ๐๐ฑ๐ฎ๐: You’re on a date with someone you’re actually excited about. She’s laughing at your stories and asking follow-up questions.
๐๐ฟ๐ถ๐ฑ๐ฎ๐: You’re planning a second date while getting new matches from women who fit exactly what you’re looking for.
๐ฆ๐ฎ๐๐๐ฟ๐ฑ๐ฎ๐: You’re on a second date with someone you’re genuinely excited about, or choosing between multiple weekend plans with different women.
๐ฆ๐๐ป๐ฑ๐ฎ๐: You’re planning next week’s dates while feeling genuinely optimistic about your dating life for the first time in months.
๐ฆ๐ถ๐ ๐บ๐ผ๐ป๐๐ต๐ ๐ณ๐ฟ๐ผ๐บ ๐ป๐ผ๐: You’re in a relationship with someone who genuinely excites you, or you have the confidence and skills to consistently meet quality women. Dating is no longer a source of stress, it’s actually fun.
The Brutal Part About the Red Door
Even when I show you exactly what’s on the other side, even when you can see the Red Door to everything you want, most men still choose the Blue Door.
๐๐’๐ ๐น๐ถ๐ธ๐ฒ ๐๐ฎ๐๐ฐ๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฎ ๐ฑ๐ฟ๐ผ๐๐ป๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐บ๐ฎ๐ป ๐ฐ๐ผ๐บ๐ฝ๐น๐ฎ๐ถ๐ป ๐ฎ๐ฏ๐ผ๐๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ผ๐น๐ผ๐ฟ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐น๐ถ๐ณ๐ฒ ๐ฝ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ.
You’re struggling in the water. Your dating life is sinking fast. I throw you exactly what you need to save yourself.
And instead of grabbing it, you say:
โThis doesn’t look like what I expected.โ
โAre you sure this will work for someone like me?โ
โWhat if people judge me for using this?โ
โI’ve been doing fine on my own so far…โ
๐๐๐๐ฃ๐ฌ๐๐๐ก๐, ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช’๐ง๐ ๐จ๐ฉ๐๐ก๐ก ๐๐ง๐ค๐ฌ๐ฃ๐๐ฃ๐.
The Excuses I Hear Every Day
โ๐ ๐๐ค๐ฃ’๐ฉ ๐ฌ๐๐ฃ๐ฉ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐ก๐ค๐ค๐ ๐ก๐๐ ๐ ๐’๐ข ๐ฉ๐ง๐ฎ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฉ๐ค๐ค ๐๐๐ง๐.โ
๐๐ฆ๐ข๐ญ๐ช๐ต๐บ: You’re using a blurry bathroom selfie from 2022 that screams โI’m not trying at allโ.
๐๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ธ๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฌ๐ด: Photos that show you living an interesting life, taken by someone else, in good lighting.
โ๐ ๐ฌ๐๐ฃ๐ฉ ๐จ๐ค๐ข๐๐ค๐ฃ๐ ๐ฌ๐๐ค ๐๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ง๐๐๐๐๐ฉ๐๐จ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐ง๐๐๐ก ๐ข๐.โ
๐๐ฆ๐ข๐ญ๐ช๐ต๐บ: Your bio is so generic (โlove to travel, work hard, play hard, looking for something realโ) that no real personality comes through.
๐๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ธ๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฌ๐ด: Bios that tell specific stories about who you are and what makes you unique.
โ๐ ๐จ๐๐ค๐ช๐ก๐๐ฃ’๐ฉ ๐๐๐ซ๐ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐๐๐๐ฃ๐๐ ๐ฌ๐๐ค ๐ ๐๐ข.โ
๐๐ฆ๐ข๐ญ๐ช๐ต๐บ: You’re not changing who you are, you’re learning how to show who you are effectively.
๐๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ธ๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฌ๐ด: Understanding that attraction follows psychological principles, not logical ones.
โ๐๐๐๐ฉ ๐๐ ๐๐ฉ ๐๐ค๐๐จ๐ฃ’๐ฉ ๐ฌ๐ค๐ง๐ ๐๐ค๐ง ๐จ๐ค๐ข๐๐ค๐ฃ๐ ๐ก๐๐ ๐ ๐ข๐?โ
๐๐ฆ๐ข๐ญ๐ช๐ต๐บ: You’re already not getting results, so what exactly are you protecting?
๐๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ธ๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฌ๐ด: Trying strategies that are proven to work instead of hoping your current approach will magically improve.
๐ ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ป๐๐ต๐ถ๐น๐ฒ, ๐๐ต๐ถ๐น๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐’๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐บ๐ฎ๐ธ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฒ๐ ๐ฐ๐๐๐ฒ๐:
More guys are taking the Red Door every day. The competition is getting better while you’re standing still.
The women you want are matching with men who chose the Red Door months ago.
Your dating app algorithm is learning that your profile doesn’t generate engagement, so it’s showing you to fewer people.
๐๐ค๐ช’๐ง๐ ๐ฃ๐ค๐ฉ ๐๐ช๐จ๐ฉ ๐จ๐ฉ๐๐ฎ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ฃ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐ฝ๐ก๐ช๐ ๐ฟ๐ค๐ค๐ง ๐ง๐๐๐ก๐๐ฉ๐ฎ, ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช’๐ง๐ ๐๐๐ฉ๐๐ซ๐๐ก๐ฎ ๐จ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐๐๐ฅ๐๐ง ๐๐ฃ๐ฉ๐ค ๐๐ฉ.
What I Can Show You with the Red Door
The exact photo strategies that generate 10x more matches. The psychology behind bios that make women curious instead of bored. Why showing lifestyle and personality beats listing accomplishments every single time. How to translate your real-world success into dating app magnetism.
๐๐๐ ๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒ’๐ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ป’๐ ๐ฑ๐ผ
I can’t make you walk through the Red Door. I can’t force you to take better photos, rewrite your bio, or embrace showing authentic personality instead of trying to look impressive.
๐ ๐๐๐ฃ ๐จ๐๐ค๐ฌ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐๐ค๐ค๐ง, ๐๐ช๐ฉ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช ๐๐๐ซ๐ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐ฌ๐๐ก๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ง๐ค๐ช๐๐ ๐๐ฉ.
๐ง๐ต๐ฒ ๐ด๐๐๐ ๐๐ต๐ผ ๐ฐ๐ต๐ผ๐๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฅ๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐๐ผ๐ผ๐ฟ?
They had the same fears, the same resistance. They stood at the same crossroads you’re standing at right now.
But they decided that getting the results they wanted was more important than staying comfortable with what wasn’t working.
They chose temporary discomfort over permanent frustration.
What’s It Going to Be?
๐ต ๐ง๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐น๐๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ผ๐ฟ: Stay comfortable in your current approach. Keep the same photos, the same bio, the same results. Wake up tomorrow exactly where you are today, six months from now exactly where you are today.
๐ด ๐ง๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฅ๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐๐ผ๐ผ๐ฟ: Accept that everything you thought you knew about online dating is wrong. Learn what actually works. Step into a reality where you get regular matches with women who genuinely excite you.
The choice is yours.
But remember, I can only show you the door.
You have to choose to walk through it.
Cheers,
Sandric