Remember 2019?
Back then, you could throw up two decent photos, write “I’m loyal, honest, and love to laugh” in your bio, and actually get matches.
Those days are DEAD.
Here’s what happened…
Women now swipe through 200+ profiles every single week. That’s not an exaggeration, that’s the reality of modern dating apps.
And here’s the kicker: They’re making decisions in under 3 seconds. Not based on logic. Not based on your job title or how many times you hit the gym.
𝗕𝗮𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝗼𝗻 𝗽𝘂𝗿𝗲 𝗲𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻.
The question isn’t “Is this guy attractive?” anymore.
It’s “Does this guy GET IT? Does he feel different from the other 47 guys I’ve seen today who all look exactly the same?”
What Women Are ACTUALLY Looking for Now
They want to feel like they know WHO you are before they even match with you.
What’s your vibe? What makes you different? What’s your lifestyle like? Are you the adventure guy? The creative type? The guy who has his life together but doesn’t take himself too seriously?
They’re not just swiping on looks anymore. They’re swiping on ENERGY and PERSONALITY.
Most guys are still playing the old game. They’re trying to look “impressive” with shirtless gym pics, photos next to expensive cars, and bios that read like LinkedIn profiles.
The Brutal Reality
Your success in other areas of life means NOTHING on dating apps if you can’t translate it into the right energy.
I’ve seen engineers getting outmatched by bartenders. Project managers losing to personal trainers. Guys with solid careers and savings accounts getting ignored while dudes making minimum wage are drowning in options.
Hell, I’ve watched CEOs and guys pulling in multiple six figures get completely destroyed by college students and retail workers.
Why?
Because the bartender’s profile shows him laughing with friends at a rooftop party. The personal trainer’s photos tell a story about adventure and spontaneity. The college kid’s energy screams “fun and carefree”.
Meanwhile, Mr. Has-His-Life-Together has photos that look like they belong on a professional networking site.
Why This Should Be Motivating as Hell for You
It means you don’t need to be rich to win at this game. You don’t need a fancy car or a corner office. You don’t need to compete on money or status.
The playing field is actually MORE level than you think.
But it also means that all the things you’ve worked hard to build, your career, your financial stability, your responsible lifestyle, won’t save you if you can’t show the RIGHT energy.
A broke college kid with the right vibe will get more matches than a successful professional with boring photos.
That’s both the opportunity AND the problem.
𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗳𝗶𝗹𝗲 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗲𝗹𝗹 𝗮 𝗦𝗧𝗢𝗥𝗬 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗿𝗲.
Not what you’ve accomplished. Not how stable you are. Not how serious and “responsible” you are.
WHO you are as a person she’d actually want to spend time with.
A 6/10 guy whose profile makes her think “This guy seems fun and different” will destroy an 8/10 guy whose profile screams “generic put-together guy #247”.
Where Most Successful Guys Get Stuck
You’re used to being rewarded for playing it safe. For being professional. For showing competence and reliability.
That mindset is KILLING your dating results.
The energy that makes you successful at work, in your hobbies, with your goals – makes you invisible on dating apps.
You know you need to show more personality, but every time you try, it feels forced or inauthentic.
You know you need better photos, but you have no idea what “good energy” actually looks like in practice.
You know you need storytelling, but your attempts end up sounding either boring or like you’re trying too hard.
Why This is the Most Frustrating Part
You’ve figured out how to succeed in literally every other area of your life. You’ve built skills, achieved goals, created the lifestyle you want.
But dating apps? It’s like all your usual strategies just… don’t work.
You’re getting matches with women who aren’t even close to what you’re looking for, wondering what the hell you’re doing wrong.
𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝘁𝗵 𝗶𝘀, 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝗮 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗲𝘁𝗲𝗹𝘆 𝗱𝗶𝗳𝗳𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝘀𝗸𝗶𝗹𝗹𝘀𝗲𝘁.
There’s a science to creating photos that convey the right energy without looking staged. There’s psychology behind crafting a bio that makes her curious instead of impressed. There’s strategy to building a profile that shows you’ve got your life together without screaming “I’m trying to prove my worth”.
Most guys who are successful in other areas think they can figure this out on their own. After all, you’ve figured out everything else, right?
But three months later, you’re still getting nowhere, wondering why the same problem-solving skills that work everywhere else aren’t working here.
The guys getting the results you want? They didn’t waste time reinventing the wheel. They learned from someone who’s already cracked the code on translating real-world success into dating app magnetism.
Online dating isn’t broken. It just evolved into something completely different.
And the strategies that work require a level of insight that you can’t just trial-and-error your way to.
Cheers,
Sandric