If someone had told me years ago
…that my journey of understanding women would eventually lead me to becoming a male escort, I would have laughed. Or judged. Or both.
I didn’t become a coach because I worked as an escort. It was the other way around. I had already spent years studying women, dating psychology, and emotional connection before taking on my first booking.
I wanted to understand desire not just in theory, but in real life. And what I experienced as an escort taught me more than any book, video or podcast.
Because like most men, I had my assumptions and prejudices. That women only booked escorts out of desperation. That it was about sex with older women. That I’d be selling my soul.
But when I finally followed my gut, despite those doubts, everything changed. And what I discovered gave me insights into women, intimacy, and attraction that no theory or advice ever could.
For many men, the idea of getting paid to sleep with beautiful women sounds like the ultimate fantasy.
But what I actually experienced was something far more real, quieter, deeper, and emotionally revealing in ways I never expected.
Why Women Book a Male Escort (And Why It’s Not What You Think)
Here’s what no one tells you. Most men assume women book an escort out of loneliness or desperation. But the truth is far more layered, emotional, and human.
Why They Really Book – The 5 Reasons No One Talks About
1. Dating apps have left many women emotionally empty
It’s not that the apps themselves are bad, but they often attract men who are emotionally unavailable, rushed, or self-focused.
Women told me they were tired of matches that went nowhere, sex that felt empty, and surface-level conversations that never turned into anything real.
They didn’t want more attention, they wanted to feel something meaningful.
2. They want closeness without the games
Many are open to connection, but not looking for a relationship. They want intimacy, but on their terms.
3. They have desires they don’t trust regular men with
From fantasies like threesomes, massage, or being watched, to simply wanting to let go without being judged. They want a partner who can hold space for that.
4. They want to feel like women again
Desired. Safe. Powerful. Soft. Sensual. With someone who makes them feel seen without pressure.
5. They either have the money, or they find a way
Some save. Some book with a friend. Some get gifted a session. When the experience feels right, price becomes secondary. Because it’s not a transaction. It’s an escape.
Many of them were in their twenties or thirties. Some came alone. Some came as couples. Others even invited a second woman to join or asked me to bring along a female escort friend I know. Not for the thrill, but because they wanted to explore something real, in a space that felt safe.
These weren’t random hookups. They were women who wanted something deeper. Something they didn’t trust regular men to give them.
A Few Moments That Stayed With Me
I’ve lived many moments that stayed with me. Here are a few I’ll never forget.
One woman booked me after ten years of focusing entirely on her career. She told me she was scared of sex. Scared of being touched. She wanted to feel safe again. To feel like a woman, not just a function.
Then there was a successful businesswoman who traveled constantly. She had no time for dating, no energy for emotional games. But she still craved human connection. So she booked me for an evening of calm, closeness and playful intimacy. No expectations, just presence.
A 21-year-old once booked a hotel for us, just to have a glass of wine, cuddle, have sex and watch a Disney movie. She told me she’d only ever been disappointed by men. All she wanted was to be held and feel like herself again
And one woman booked me just to accompany her to her divorce appointment. Her ex-husband was already with someone new. She didn’t want revenge. She just wanted to walk in with her head high and with someone by her side who made her feel strong.
But there’s another reason most men never consider.
In real life, many of these women aren’t being approached by the kind of men they actually want. The ones who do are often men who look perfect but never make them feel safe or seen, or they simply lack the emotional depth and presence women crave. And the few who do have those qualities usually stay silent.
So they settle. Or stay single. Or they book someone like me. Not because they’ve given up on connection, but because they’ve stopped waiting for it to happen by chance.
Some even invited me to other cities, booked hotels or covered my travel expenses, not for the thrill, but because they wanted to feel safe exploring something they couldn’t find at home. It wasn’t about luxury. It was about presence.
These weren’t just bookings. They were moments.
And every single one of them taught me something about what women really need, and why so many of them don’t trust the average guy to give it to them.
Some women even left reviews after. Not about performance. But about what it made them feel.
One woman commented:
“He is patient, gentle, and incredibly attentive. I felt so safe around him, like I could let go completely. His kisses were addictive, and his touch… wow. We couldn’t stop. Even as I fell asleep, he kept caressing me. It felt so soft, so real. I’ve honestly never been held like that. He should offer a cuddling rate, I’d book it again in a heartbeat.”
Another one said:
“There was instant chemistry. His energy, his calm confidence, it pulled me in right away. We talked, we laughed, and I felt like he really saw me. And when things got physical… it was fire. He knew exactly what to do. A mix of tenderness and dominance that made me melt. Even after, he didn’t just turn off, he stayed close, loving, present. It felt like an emotional and physical adventure I’d love to experience again.”
One woman even handed me a letter on our first date.
She had written it before we met, and gave it to me without a word. At that moment, I knew this wasn’t about sex.
I read it on the train back to Hamburg.
“Thank you for the good feeling you gave me during our phone call. I already know it will be special. I don’t expect anything. I just want to enjoy what’s coming, whatever shape it takes. You already made me feel more seen than many men I’ve dated in real life.”
But it wasn’t an exception, it became the norm.
And a few of their words never left me.
“It felt like vacation and therapy for the soul. Only better.”
“Even after sex, you still held me like I mattered.”
Some women booked me because their partners had stopped seeing them. Not physically. Emotionally. Years of marriage without touch, presence or compliments. They still loved their husbands. But they felt invisible.
Others came as couples. For a threesome, yes. But also because the husband had a fetish he was too shy to explore alone. With me, they felt safe. They could trust that I wouldn’t judge them or ruin their dynamic.
Some had survived trauma. Others wanted to rediscover their sexuality after divorce, cancer or childbirth. A few just wanted to feel feminine again. To be desired without pressure. To laugh, flirt and be held like it was the first time again.
This wasn’t about fantasy. It was about healing.
What I Learned From Those Experiences
Women want and love sex. But not in the way most men think. They want sex that starts in the mind. That flows from energy, playfulness, trust. That holds both tenderness and tension. Presence and polarity.
Most men on dating apps miss that completely.
They try to impress. Convince. Perform.
But women don’t respond to pressure, they respond to how they feel with you.
As an escort, I had to learn how to create that feeling.
Not because I was naturally good at it, but because no one had ever shown me.
I learned it the hard way, through experience, mistakes and paying attention.
And once you do, something shifts.
You stop trying to prove yourself and start making women feel truly safe, seen and desired.
My Journey (From Late Bloomer to Male Escort)
Here’s the part you probably didn’t expect. I was a virgin until 21. Never kissed. Always too shy. Too unsure. Too much in my head.
And maybe that’s exactly why I became good at this. Not because I was smooth. Because I had to learn. I had to understand.
I never wanted sex to be about performing or pretending. I wanted connection. And when I eventually explored my sexuality, I did it with curiosity, respect and a deep desire to create win-win experiences.
Even as an escort, I never played a role. I showed up as myself. Soft, confident, intuitive. Women felt it. They trusted me. And that trust created moments that went far beyond anything physical.
Why This Matters For You and Why I Love This Work
Most men try hard. But they try at the wrong things. They focus on photos, bios, lines, dates. They forget to focus on vibe. On emotional energy. On making her feel something real.
That’s where I come in. I don’t just help you build a better profile. I help you understand the kind of presence women crave and how to embody it in your own way.
Because once you know what I know, it’s not about chasing anymore. It’s about attracting. Naturally. Confidently. Without games.
At the end of the day, this isn’t about being better at dating. It’s about becoming the kind of man who makes a woman feel alive again.
And if I can help even a few men do that, more emotionally, more honestly, more deeply, then I know I’m doing something that matters.