My assistant coaches and I are constantly writing new posts for our students.
Usually theyโre only being posted in our secret Dating Superheroes group.
In fact, I have never made even one of them public before, because they are insanely valuable.
However, Iโm sick and tired of seeing guys screw up during texting conversations.
So many guys make basic Textgame mistakes that decide between:
โ Waking up next to the woman of their dreams
And
โ Getting ghosted on the app and never even meeting her in person.
So thatโs why today Iโll share with you the 10 key commandments you should follow when texting women:
๐ญ. ๐ช๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ๐ป ๐๐ข๐ฉ๐ ๐ฎ ๐บ๐ฎ๐ป ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐น๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฑ๐ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐บ๐ฎ๐ธ๐ฒ๐ ๐ฝ๐น๐ฎ๐ป๐
Donโt always ask her, but take the lead and suggest something to her.
Nothing is more attractive to women than a man that can make plans and doesnโt always ask her what she wants to do.
Of course I donโt mean this in a sexist way, you should also consider a womanโs feelings and allow her to make decisions.
But especially when it comes to Online Dating, women will rarely take the lead and ask you out as this is considered your job.
However, If your profile is absolutely amazing and youโre exactly her type it can still happen that she asks you out.
๐ฎ. ๐ฆ๐๐ผ๐ฝ ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐น๐ถ๐ฒ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ป ๐บ๐ฎ๐ธ๐ฒ ๐๐ฝ ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐ฎ ๐ฏ๐ฎ๐ฑ ๐ฝ๐ฟ๐ผ๐ณ๐ถ๐น๐ฒ ๐๐ถ๐๐ต ๐ด๐ผ๐ผ๐ฑ ๐ง๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ด๐ฎ๐บ๐ฒ
โHe has horrible pictures and portrays himself like shit, but damn the way he texted made me so wet, I love himโ
โ No woman ever
The profile is the fucking foundation of a house, without one you canโt build a house.
Of course you also need windows, walls, a roof etc. but the foundation is crucial.
If you have a good profile, good Textgame and know what you are doing women will start to chase you, invest more and give you compliments.
They might even ask you out for a date, but what theyโll definitely do is ask more questions, give longer replies and use Emojis which is an indication that you triggered something in them.
99% of guys on Dating apps have rational smalltalk conversations and will never trigger anything in women except for boredom or disgust.
๐ฏ. ๐ก๐๐ฉ๐๐ฅ ๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ๐ผ๐บ๐น๐ ๐ฎ๐๐ธ ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐ป๐๐บ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐ฟ, ๐ฏ๐๐ ๐ฎ๐น๐๐ฎ๐๐ ๐ด๐ถ๐๐ฒ ๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐ฎ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐๐ผ๐ป ๐ผ๐ป ๐๐ต๐ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ฎ๐ป๐ ๐ถ๐
Always give a woman context on why you want her number and ask for it on a high note = emotional point of a conversation where sheโs reacting very positively.
The number is simply a means to an end to make plans, not a trophy for you to collect and brag to your friends about.
๐ฐ. ๐จ๐๐ฒ ๐๐บ๐ผ๐ท๐ถ๐ ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ ๐๐ฝ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ป๐ด๐น๐, ๐ท๐๐๐ ๐น๐ถ๐ธ๐ฒ ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฝ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐๐ฎ๐น๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ป ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ผ๐ธ๐ถ๐ป๐ด
Too much of it can ruin a meal, but just the right amount and it will taste delicious.
In fact, using too many Emojis completely flips the dynamic as it makes you seem like a child.
Most men use too many Emojis because they are afraid that women could misinterpret their message and stop replying.
Women feel that and there is a simple solution to this:
Phrase your messages in the clearest way possible, so there is simply no room for misinterpretation.
If you give women room for interpretation, theyโll always interpret your message depending on their current emotional state and in most cases thatโs the worst possible way for you.
๐ฑ. ๐ฆ๐ต๐ผ๐ ๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ฎ๐ฝ๐ฝ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐ฑ๐ถ๐๐ฎ๐ฝ๐ฝ๐ฟ๐ผ๐๐ฒ๐บ๐ฒ๐ป๐
When a woman does something u wanted her to do for example reply positively to a message of yours, you want to show her your appreciation for it so she shows more of the same behavior down the line.
On the other hand when she does something you absolutely donโt like, let her know in a playful way like for example tease her for it or subtract brownie points.
๐ฒ. ๐๐น๐๐ฎ๐๐ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ธ ๐ฎ๐ต๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฑ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ฎ๐ป๐ ๐๐ผ ๐๐ฎ๐ธ๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ป๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป ๐๐ผ
The end goal is the in person date, not becoming her pen pal or stroking your ego because an attractive woman is texting with you.
A conversation on dating apps is like chess, you want to already think 2 steps ahead of her and anticipate her response.
๐ณ. ๐ง๐ฟ๐ ๐๐ผ ๐ฎ๐๐ผ๐ถ๐ฑ ๐๐ฎ๐ต๐ฎโ๐, ๐น๐ผ๐นโ๐ ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐ผ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐ป๐ฒ๐๐๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ธ
Youโre not a little boy but a grown ass man.
Imagine Thor, James Bond, The Rock, Vin Diesel or Channing Tatum.
Do you think those men will use Lolโs, Hahaโs and lmaoโs all the time?
Nah, because theyโre attractive, masculine men.
๐ด. ๐๐ผ๐ปโ๐ ๐๐ต๐ผ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ๐ป ๐๐ถ๐๐ต ๐ฐ๐ผ๐บ๐ฝ๐น๐ถ๐บ๐ฒ๐ป๐๐
Use them when youโre really surprised that she has a personality trait you value or to make her feel better if sheโs behaving in the way you appreciate.
Itโs always better to make a compliment about something she enjoys, a personality trait of hers or her taste rather than her God given looks.
Just trust me, sheโll appreciate that way more, especially since the majority of men on dating apps hand out compliments as if there was no tomorrow.
๐ต. ๐๐ฒ ๐๐๐ฐ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ป๐ฐ๐ ๐๐ถ๐๐ต ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐บ๐ฒ๐๐๐ฎ๐ด๐ฒ๐
Again, imagine Thor, James Bond, The Rock, Vin Diesel or Channing Tatum.
Men who are attractive to women, have options and a life.
They donโt have the time to write novels because it would be like a full time Job.
I know, you might think โbut itโs just that one woman that Iโm writing to so muchโ.
However, if itโs really only that one woman youโre writing to so much, then youโve probably already put her on a pedestal.
By idealizing her and seeing her as some kind of goddess, youโre going to make a ton of mistakes and show supplicating behavior down the line.
But guess what?
She also has to go to the toilet and it doesnโt smell like rose petals and fairy dust.
I know, shocking right.
Sheโs just a normal human being with her own life problems and imperfections, not some kind of flawless goddess.
Also, put yourself in her shoes for a moment.
if she thinks you have options because your profile is damn attractive, sheโll assume youโre also talking to many other women.
So if you text her this much sheโll immediately assume that youโre texting this much to all women and if you have the time to do that you probably donโt have many options or an interesting life.
Besides, the person investing the most in a conversation is chasing the other one.
In the best case scenario you want the woman to chase you, not the other way around.
Thatโs why you should try to say whatever you want to say in as few words as possible while still getting your message across.
๐ญ๐ฌ. ๐๐ฐ๐ ๐น๐ถ๐ธ๐ฒ ๐ฎ ๐ป๐ผ๐ฟ๐บ๐ฎ๐น, ๐ฒ๐บ๐ฝ๐ฎ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐๐ถ๐ฐ ๐ต๐๐บ๐ฎ๐ป ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐ถ๐ป๐ด
Have some understanding that there are certain safety concerns women have and they just want to know that youโre trustworthy and a good guy.
Most guys on Dating apps are either creepy, nice guys, desperate or dancing monkeys.
If you show women that youโre down to earth and not any of those youโre already ahead of the competition.
When I say โnice guysโ I donโt mean that being friendly and nice is a bad thing.
But so-called โnice guysโ are usually nice because they have an agenda and want something in return for being nice and friendly.
This behavior is highly unattractive to women and for a good reason.
Thatโs it guys.
Do your best to internalize those commandments as if your life depended upon it.
I promise you, just by following them your conversations will improve a lot.โฃ
Cheers,
Sandric