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Let me explain to you why copy paste messages won't get you anywhere with women in 2021 ๐Ÿ™…๐Ÿฝโ€โ™‚๏ธ

Today I wanted to talk about a very common topic in the community.โฃ
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The topic of using copy paste messages, especially those that aren’t authentic and congruent with who you are. โฃ
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You could basically call it โ€œCatfish Textingโ€œ. โฃ
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First let me get one thing straight. โฃ
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Online Dating isn’t about just one component. โฃ
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It consists of many different pieces, that in the end create the entire puzzle. โฃ
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There’s the profile, the Mindset, the Text Game, the Date behaviour. โฃ
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If you’re even missing just one of those pieces, like with a puzzle it will be hard to complete it.โฃ
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What I’m getting at:โฃ
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Working on your Text Game without having a good profile or with a horrible Mindset, is like shooting yourself in the foot. ๐Ÿ”ซ (obviously not just with a water gun ๐Ÿ˜‰) โฃ
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Yes, you might get some success, but it will be significantly less than if you had a great profile to back it up.โฃ
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Your profile is like your business card, it matters more than anything else. โฃ
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Only once your profile is on point, it makes sense to focus on the other very important aspects of Online Dating.โฃ
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When it comes to your mindset, that decides about how you’ll interpret messages you receive from women.โฃ
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And therefore obviously also how you’ll react to them.โฃ
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The Date behaviour piece is quite self explanatory, so I don’t think I need to get into this much.โฃ
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Even if your mindset, profile and texting are great.. โฃ
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if you don’t know how to behave on the Date, the woman will still not want to become a part of your life in any way.โฃ
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Now having gotten this out of the way, let’s continue.โฃ
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I witness it all the time in Facebook groups:โฃ
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Men posting a profile of a woman they matched with, asking other random men what they could say to her. โฃ
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Then someone tells them what to send to the woman. โฃ
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Afterwards they’re back showing what she replied and asking what they should say to her now. โฃ
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There are three main outcomes of this, none of them is positive.โฃ
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๐—ฆ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ผ ๐Ÿญ – ๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐˜„๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ธโฃ
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Let’s imagine that our friend (let’s call him Max) gets help from an experienced guy inside a Facebook group and his lines work. โฃ
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So Max who’s copy pasting those lines ends up going on a Date with the woman. โฃ
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However, the woman expects the person she was texting with (basically the person helping him out) to go on the Date.โฃ
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Now two things happen:โฃ
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1. The woman will lose interest immediately, because she was expecting to meet a confident, creative and humorous man, but got an introverted, uncreative and boring one.โฃ
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Don’t get me wrong. โฃ
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it wouldn’t even have mattered much, if she knew what she was in for, because it would have been her decision.โฃ
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But now she’ll want to politely end the date or come up with some kind of excuse and ghost him afterwards.โฃ
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2. Max will blame himself and think that something is wrong with him because the woman lost interest.โฃ
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He’ll look for the problem internally, instead of the fact he just copy pasted lines someone else gave to him.โฃ
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Trying to figure out the reason for her loss of interest, resulting in a downward spiral of negative self-talk and focusing on the wrong factor. โฃ
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And when you think it couldn’t get any worse, both of those points lead to his own and the woman’s time basically having been wasted. โฃ
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๐—ฆ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ผ ๐Ÿฎ – ๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐˜„๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ธ ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐—ฎ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ถ๐—น๐—ฒโฃ
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So let’s imagine that Max got lines from a very experienced person and they worked well until mid conversation. โฃ
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He seemed confident, attractive, dominant and fun.โฃ
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Now he decides to write something on his own as he thinks he could be himself now or because the guy stopped replying for some reason.โฃ
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But It’s like the complete opposite. โฃ
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Max is starting to write boring, rational messages and interview the woman, because he doesn’t know better as he has no real experience. โฃ
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What happens now, is that the woman will wonder why there’s such an incongruence between his messages.โฃ
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She’ll think something is wrong, lose interest and focus on other men who have been authentic and congruent throughout the entire conversation.โฃ
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Again resulting in Max blaming himself (or maybe even initially the lines), which obviously is the completely wrong thing to focus on.โฃ
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๐—ฆ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ผ ๐Ÿฏ – ๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐—ฑ๐—ผ๐—ป’๐˜ ๐˜„๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ธโฃ
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Max tried out the lines someone gave to him and they didn’t produce the results he expected. โฃ
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Now he will just blame the lines that didn’t work because it is the most obvious to him.โฃ
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Instead of considering that there might also still be a lot of room for improvement in his profile or his Mindset.โฃ
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Maybe he will even blame the woman and say she’s boring, a time waster, attention bitch, just looking for Instagram followers, etc.โฃ
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I know, it’s always easier to blame others than take full responsibility for your own actions and the resulting outcome.โฃ
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However, the problem with this is that you shouldn’t blame external things that are outside of your control. โฃ
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It won’t help you improve, you’ll just temporarily feel better because you found a culprit to whom you can hand over responsibility.โฃ
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What you should do instead is focus on the factors that you can control and optimize those. โฃ
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Only once you’ve done everything in your power to improve them, you may consider that the issue might lie somewhere else.โฃ
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๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ง๐—ฒ๐˜…๐˜ ๐—ฆ๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ธ – ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ผ๐˜„๐—ป ๐—ฎ๐—ฝ๐—ฝ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ต ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ถ๐˜ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜๐—ฒ๐˜…๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ดโฃ
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What we do is help men to get a crystal clear idea of how to text with women.โฃ
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They won’t need us anymore after they finish our program and this is how it should be.โฃ
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All of you probably know the saying:โฃ
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โ€œIf you give a man a fish, you feed him for a day. If you teach a man to fish, you feed him for a lifetimeโ€œ ๐ŸŽฃโฃ
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It’s the same with Texting in Online Dating. โฃ
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If you give someone copy paste lines, it won’t be long until he runs out of them and his true personality shines through. โฃ
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The woman will lose interest immediately, because it’s not congruent and authentic.โฃ
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Even if the lines would work and he ends up going on a date.โฃ
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At the latest when the woman realizes that she was talking to a whole different person than the one that is now standing in front of her, she’ll lose interest.โฃ
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Throughout the entire process there needs to be a red thread where you’re always being your authentic self. ๐Ÿงตโฃ
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The way your profile is set up > Texting with the woman > How you behave on the date.โฃ
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Do you really want to depend on random men on the Internet for a lifetime.. โฃ
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Telling you what to write just so you can get dates with women you desire?โฃ
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I doubt so.โฃ
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This is where our approach is completely different. โฃ
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First we’re going to show you tons of our own conversations from different dating apps that resulted in dates. โฃ
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Explaining you the messages, but what’s more important, the PRINCIPLES behind every message. โฃ
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Because once you know WHY a message worked, it will be easy for you to come up with a similar one that fits your personality. โฃ
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You will also receive worksheets with templates that make it even easier to develop your own framework. โฃ
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Just like in school, because this way it’s faster to internalize the information. ๐Ÿค“โฃ
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But don’t worry, it doesn’t stop there. โฃ
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On top, we’re going to analyze your conversations on the weekly calls and in our Dating Superheroes Facebook group. โฃ
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We’ll tell you exactly why the woman ghosted you, took days to respond, responded in a negative way or whatever the issue with it might be.โฃ
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To the point where there’s not a single question left on the exact reason your conversation wasn’t successful. โฃ
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Now here is your chance. โฃ
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if you also want to be a part of our Superhero family and have us analyze your conversations in detail..โฃ
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Simply send me a message to schedule a free coaching call with me personally. โฃ
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We’ll see if it’s a good fit for you and if you’re motivated enough to take the Dating Superhero Transformation seriously. โฃ
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Since we’re going to spend our precious time helping you, we only want truly motivated men in this program.โฃ
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But there’s one catch, only reach out if:โฃโฃ
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โœ… You want to create genuine, real connections with women and aren’t just looking for ONS or โ€œLaysโ€œ.โฃโฃ
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โœ… You are ambitious and willing to put in the time and effort it takes to become a master at Online Dating.โฃโฃ
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โœ… You want to learn how to authentically convey your personality over text in an honest way and are aware that copy paste messages won’t help you with that.โฃโฃ
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โœ… You understand that this isn’t just a simple service, but a coaching that’s going to change your dating life completely.โฃโฃ
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If you identify with those points, let’s get you rock-solid results and make 2021 your year.โฃ
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To your future transformation. ๐Ÿฆธโฃ
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Cheers,โฃ
Sandric