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How vulnerability gets you abundance with women in Online Dating

There are a lot of books about dating or self development out there and most are a huge waste of time.โฃ.
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They just teach you some weird PUA bullshit techniques or tell you that you need to put on a mask because women are attracted to a certain type of man.โฃ
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So instead of teaching me how to become the best version of myself, they just taught me how to pretend that I’m someone else.โฃ
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Today I want to introduce you to one gem that in my opinion every man on this planet earth should read. โฃ
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This book has significantly impacted my life and changed the entire way I behaved and saw interactions with women or people in general. โฃ
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๐— ๐—ผ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—น๐˜€๐—”๐˜๐˜๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐˜ ๐˜„๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ด๐—ต ๐—ต๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜๐˜†โฃ
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As you know I’m a big believer in honesty and authenticity, but it hasn’t always been that way. โฃ
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In the past when interacting with women or life in general I was often inauthentic. โฃ
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Trying to use techniques or pretending to be someone I’m not. โฃ
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I thought women wouldn’t like me for who I am.โฃ
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This led to me putting on a mask when talking to women. โฃ
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So if a woman rejected me they never rejected the โ€œreal meโ€œ, I could always blame it on the mask and it didn’t hurt as much. โฃ
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I know it might sound stupid to some, but humans are willing to do a lot to avoid pain.โฃ
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Only once I read โ€œModelsโ€œ for the first time, it opened up my eyes to how much easier life could be if we were radically honest and authentic.โฃ
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Since then I’ve read the English and German versions multiple times as well as listened to the audiobook on Audible. โฃ
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The book talks about how vulnerability is actually a strength instead of a weakness.โฃ
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In society we’ve been taught certain gender roles. โฃ
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Men need to be โ€œalphaโ€œ and shouldn’t show any sign of weakness. โฃ
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Only women are โ€œallowedโ€œ to be more emotional.โฃ
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But that’s a huge misconception and definitely not true. โฃ
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Mark Manson was the first and only person to teach me how to express myself in an honest way with women. โฃ
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To say exactly what I think or feel at any moment (even though it might be extremely hard).โฃ
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Expressing my thoughts unfiltered, while still being socially intuitive.โฃ
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To be honest, at first I thought that advice was bullshit. โฃ
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Why would a woman care about how I feel?โฃ
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Why would she care about my goals and my dreams?โฃ
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Shouldn’t men always be the โ€œalphaโ€œ rock and not express any emotions?โฃ
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Why would I share my insecurities with a woman I’m attracted to? โฃ
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Wouldn’t that make her think I’m a weak man or maybe even crybaby?โฃ
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I was totally confused, because his advice was the complete opposite of everything else that I watched or read about women up to this point.โฃ
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I thought I always had to be (or pretend to be) the self amused alpha man that doesn’t give a f*ck about anything.โฃ
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But since nothing I had tried so far really worked out for me, I decided to just be open minded and follow everything he outlines in his book. โฃ
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After initial problems to really open myself up and be vulnerable, to my surprise it worked like a charm. โฃ
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Women didn’t see me as a low value whiny crybaby, but instead saw me as a high value man.โฃ
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I was one of the only men (or should I say people?) they were able to connect with because I was REAL.โฃ
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This realisation was so mind blowing that from there on I started to really live by his methods.โฃ
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Women suddenly rarely ghosted me anymore and weren’t hesitant to come back to my place either.โฃ
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It helped me to form much deeper connections and the deepest one with my Soulmate

Lilli

who I just moved in with together.โฃ

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But the best part was that I didn’t need to hold back on anything that I felt anymore, because โ€œwomen might not like or be attracted to itโ€œ. โฃ
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This freedom of expression is indescribable.โฃ
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Of course I also recommended the book to all of my friends who were โ€œPUA’sโ€œ following the inauthentic methods I used to follow.โฃ
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And as I expected, it worked much better for them too. โฃ
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There’s one passage in particular from the book that really opened my eyes and blew my mind.โฃ
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๐’€๐’๐’– ๐’„๐’๐’–๐’๐’… ๐’”๐’‚๐’š ๐’Ž๐’†๐’ ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’˜๐’๐’Ž๐’†๐’ ๐’‚๐’๐’Ž๐’๐’”๐’• ๐’”๐’‘๐’†๐’‚๐’Œ ๐’•๐’˜๐’ ๐’†๐’๐’•๐’Š๐’“๐’†๐’๐’š ๐’…๐’Š๐’‡๐’‡๐’†๐’“๐’†๐’๐’• ๐’๐’‚๐’๐’ˆ๐’–๐’‚๐’ˆ๐’†๐’”.โฃ
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๐‘ด๐’†๐’ ๐’Ž๐’๐’”๐’•๐’๐’š ๐’„๐’๐’Ž๐’Ž๐’–๐’๐’Š๐’„๐’‚๐’•๐’† ๐’•๐’‰๐’“๐’๐’–๐’ˆ๐’‰ ๐’‡๐’‚๐’„๐’•๐’”, ๐’”๐’•๐’๐’“๐’Š๐’†๐’” ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’…๐’‚๐’•๐’‚.โฃ
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๐‘พ๐’† ๐’…๐’Š๐’”๐’„๐’–๐’”๐’” ๐’”๐’‘๐’๐’“๐’•๐’” ๐’”๐’•๐’‚๐’•๐’Š๐’”๐’•๐’Š๐’„๐’”, ๐’‰๐’๐’˜ ๐’˜๐’† ๐’‡๐’Š๐’™๐’†๐’… ๐’๐’–๐’“ ๐’„๐’‚๐’“ ๐’๐’‚๐’”๐’• ๐’˜๐’†๐’†๐’Œ๐’†๐’๐’… ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’˜๐’‰๐’†๐’“๐’† ๐’˜๐’† ๐’‘๐’๐’‚๐’ ๐’๐’ ๐’ˆ๐’๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ ๐’๐’†๐’™๐’• ๐’Ž๐’๐’๐’•๐’‰.โฃ
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๐‘ฐ๐’‡ ๐’‚ ๐’Ž๐’‚๐’ ๐’”๐’‚๐’š๐’”, โ€œ๐‘ฐโ€™๐’๐’ ๐’”๐’†๐’† ๐’š๐’๐’– ๐’‚๐’• 6 ๐‘ท๐‘ดโ€, ๐’‰๐’† ๐’•๐’š๐’‘๐’Š๐’„๐’‚๐’๐’๐’š ๐’Ž๐’†๐’‚๐’๐’” ๐’Š๐’• ๐’๐’Š๐’•๐’†๐’“๐’‚๐’๐’๐’š..โฃ
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๐‘พ๐’๐’Ž๐’†๐’ ๐’„๐’๐’Ž๐’Ž๐’–๐’๐’Š๐’„๐’‚๐’•๐’† ๐’Ž๐’๐’“๐’† ๐’Š๐’ ๐’‡๐’†๐’†๐’๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ๐’” ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’”๐’‘๐’†๐’„๐’Š๐’‡๐’Š๐’„๐’‚๐’๐’๐’š, ๐’•๐’‰๐’“๐’๐’–๐’ˆ๐’‰ ๐’Š๐’๐’•๐’†๐’๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’๐’”.โฃ
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๐‘บ๐’–๐’“๐’†, ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’š ๐’”๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’ ๐’‘๐’‚๐’š ๐’‚๐’•๐’•๐’†๐’๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’ ๐’•๐’ ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’‡๐’‚๐’„๐’•๐’” ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’”๐’•๐’๐’“๐’Š๐’†๐’” ๐’ˆ๐’๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ ๐’๐’ ๐’๐’ ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’”๐’–๐’“๐’‡๐’‚๐’„๐’†, ๐’ƒ๐’–๐’• ๐’˜๐’‰๐’‚๐’•โ€™๐’” ๐’‚๐’„๐’•๐’–๐’‚๐’๐’๐’š ๐’„๐’๐’Ž๐’Ž๐’–๐’๐’Š๐’„๐’‚๐’•๐’†๐’… ๐’•๐’ ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’Ž ๐’Š๐’” ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’Š๐’๐’•๐’†๐’๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’ ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’‡๐’†๐’†๐’๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ ๐’–๐’๐’…๐’†๐’“๐’๐’†๐’‚๐’•๐’‰..โฃ
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๐‘ป๐’‰๐’Š๐’” ๐’Š๐’” ๐’‚๐’๐’”๐’ ๐’˜๐’‰๐’š ๐’‚ ๐’Ž๐’‚๐’ ๐’„๐’‚๐’ ๐’”๐’•๐’–๐’…๐’š ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’๐’†๐’‚๐’“๐’ ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’ƒ๐’†๐’”๐’• ๐’‘๐’Š๐’„๐’Œ ๐’–๐’‘ ๐’๐’Š๐’๐’†๐’” ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’“๐’๐’–๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’†๐’”, ๐’˜๐’‚๐’๐’Œ ๐’Š๐’๐’•๐’ ๐’‚ ๐’ƒ๐’‚๐’“, ๐’…๐’†๐’๐’Š๐’—๐’†๐’“ ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’Ž ๐’‘๐’†๐’“๐’‡๐’†๐’„๐’•๐’๐’š ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’‰๐’‚๐’—๐’† ๐’๐’๐’๐’† ๐’๐’‡ ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’Ž ๐’˜๐’๐’“๐’Œ.โฃ
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๐‘ป๐’‰๐’† ๐’˜๐’๐’Ž๐’‚๐’ ๐’‰๐’†๐’‚๐’“๐’” ๐’‰๐’Š๐’” ๐’๐’Š๐’๐’†๐’”, ๐’ƒ๐’–๐’• ๐’”๐’‰๐’†โ€™๐’” ๐’๐’Š๐’”๐’•๐’†๐’๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ ๐’•๐’ ๐’‰๐’Š๐’” ๐’Š๐’๐’•๐’†๐’๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’๐’”.โฃ
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๐‘จ๐’๐’… ๐’Š๐’‡ ๐’‰๐’Š๐’” ๐’Š๐’๐’•๐’†๐’๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’๐’” ๐’‚๐’“๐’† ๐’”๐’‚๐’š๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ, โ€œ๐‘ฐ ๐’˜๐’‚๐’๐’• ๐’•๐’ ๐’Š๐’Ž๐’‘๐’“๐’†๐’”๐’” ๐’š๐’๐’–, ๐’‘๐’๐’†๐’‚๐’”๐’† ๐’๐’Š๐’Œ๐’† ๐’Ž๐’†โ€, ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’ ๐’Š๐’• ๐’…๐’๐’†๐’”๐’โ€™๐’• ๐’Ž๐’‚๐’•๐’•๐’†๐’“ ๐’‰๐’๐’˜ ๐’ˆ๐’๐’๐’… ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’๐’Š๐’๐’†๐’” ๐’‚๐’“๐’†.โฃ
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๐‘บ๐’‰๐’†โ€™๐’” ๐’๐’๐’• ๐’ˆ๐’๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ ๐’•๐’ ๐’๐’Š๐’”๐’•๐’†๐’ ๐’•๐’ ๐’‰๐’Š๐’Ž.โฃ
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After reading this part of the book, I finally understood women.โฃ
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Now all of this can also be applied when it comes to Online Dating. โฃ
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Men always think it’s what’s in the pictures that matters. โฃ
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But in reality it’s what’s underneath or behind the pictures. โฃ
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Your sub communications, body language, the general vibe of the picture, how relaxed you seem, etc.โฃ
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Women care about the emotions that your pictures evoke in them and the story your profile paints. โฃ
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Much more than about how badass and cool you look wearing those sunglasses or how defined your abs are.โฃ
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They want to know who you are as a person and what going on a date with you would be like.โฃ
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And definitely not that you drive an expensive car, have traveled to 20+ countries, speak 5 languages and built 2 companies while riding a unicycle. โฃ
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To finish it off, if there is only one book about dating that I recommend you to read it’s โ€œModels – attract women through honestyโ€œ by Mark Manson.โฃ

Just read it and thank me later. โฃ

Cheers, โฃ
Sandric