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Are you asking friends for opinions on your pictures? Why you should stop โŒ

Today I want to explain, why I think that you should stop asking your friends or family for their opinion on your pictures when it comes to Online Dating. โฃ
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You’re probably thinking:โฃ
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โ€œWhy would I want a strangerโ€™s opinion? What do I care what some random person thinks of me?โ€ ๐Ÿค”โฃ
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โ€œPeople I donโ€™t know are going to be totally wrong about me. My friends know me. So why should I listen to anybody else?โ€โฃ
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I know it sounds great on paper to get opinions from people you care about and love. โฃ
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This might be shocking, but it’s hurting your results and the opinions you get aren’t worth much. โฃ
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Now, let me explain why that is the case. โฃ
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๐—ฃ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ปโฃ
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Everyone that knows you personally and cares about you is positively biased. โฃ
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So if you ask friends or family for opinions, they won’t say negative things about your pictures because you matter to them. โฃ
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They don’t want to hurt your feelings by telling you that a picture is bad or completely sucks. โฃ
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That applies to both, male and female friends, but is only one of the reasons. โฃ
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๐—ฌ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ณ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐˜€ ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ – ๐—˜๐—บ๐—ผ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€ & ๐— ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐˜€โฃ
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Imagine you’re showing your best buddy your profile, upon seeing it he’s absolutely amazed by it. โฃ
He sees a selfie of you where you look extremely attractive and compliments it:โฃ
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โ€žMaaan, I wish I could take such attractive selfies, mine always end up looking like shit.โ€œโฃ
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Next up is one of you wearing sunglasses looking away all cool and badass and he goes:โฃ
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โ€žYou look like a real boss, dig that pic!โ€œ ๐Ÿ˜Žโฃ
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Another picture shows a mirror selfie of you flexing with your ripped muscular body. โฃ
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He’s complimenting your physique:โฃ
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โ€žDamn, nice guns brah, girls are gonna be all over you.โ€œ. ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿพโฃ
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Then he sees the last, that you both took together in a club and goes:โฃ
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โ€žBro, I remember that night it was absolutely lit and we met those cute girls, amazing picture!โ€œ ๐ŸŽ‰โฃ
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He’s going to remember the emotional connection and memories bound to it and that will influence his opinion.โฃ
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After showing your profile to your friend you think that it’s a killer profile:โฃ
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โ€žIf my friend thinks my profile is amazing and badass, women on Online Dating apps will too, I’ll absolutely crush it!โ€œโฃ
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I mean, your friend loves it and who knows you better than your friend right? โฃ
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Wrong. โฃ
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๐—ก๐—ผ ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป – ๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐˜„๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐—ข๐—ป๐—น๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฒ ๐——๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ดโฃ
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Now let’s look at it from a woman’s perspective who doesn’t know anything about you:โฃ
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She sees the selfie and immediately thinks that it’s unattractive regardless of how you look on it, because it subcommunicates two things:โฃ
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1. Nobody takes photos of me, except for myself. I guess Iโ€™m not that interesting to be around.โฃ
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2. I am constantly looking at myself and I take photos of myself, because Iโ€™m just very into myself.โฃ
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She looks at the next one and sees the mirror selfie of you flexing. โฃ
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It turns her off and she’s gonna think that you’re tryhard, self absorbed and have nothing else to offer than your body. ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿผโ€โ™€๏ธโฃ
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Then the picture of you with sunglasses appears and gives her the impression that you’re trying to be โ€žMister too cool for schoolโ€œ. ๐Ÿคจโฃ
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She also can’t see your eyes, which are very important.โฃ
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Now she’s taking a look at the last one, the party picture. โฃ
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She thinks it’s cringe and unattractive, because you both look drunk and it seems like all you’re doing is partying. โฃ
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What I described here is already a positive scenario. โฃ
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Most of the times, women won’t even look at the rest of your pictures, if the first one isn’t an absolutely amazing money shot already. ๐Ÿ”ฅโฃ
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๐— ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—œ๐—ป๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป = ๐—ช๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ ๐—™๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ๐—ฏ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ธโฃ
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Now all this is due to the fact that strangers don’t have the background information about you, that people you know do.โฃ
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Your friends are familiar with your world and already have a fully-formed impression of who you are. โฃ
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When they see your online dating profile, they canโ€™t help but view it through a lens of what they already know about you.โฃ
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Theyโ€™re not going to have the same questions, suspicions, or curiosities that women on Online Dating apps will.โฃ
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While you may think youโ€™re portraying a fun and outgoing vibe with a party pic, in reality women are going to assume that you look โ€œdrunkโ€ or โ€œcrazyโ€.โฃ
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Your online dating profile is meant to be appealing to people you donโ€™t already know. โฃ
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And your friends canโ€™t see them the way that women on Online Dating apps do.โฃ
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Doesn’t matter if they’re men or women. โฃ
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The only difference is, that they’ll probably find different pictures attractive. โฃ
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But none of those will reflect the best version of yourself to women that don’t know you.โฃ
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๐—ง๐˜„๐—ผ ๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ถ๐—ป – ๐—–๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ฏ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† ๐—ฒ๐˜…๐—ฎ๐—บ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒ๐˜€โฃ
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Let’s take a final example, two celebrities like Barack Obama and Chadwick Boseman. โฃ
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Seeing the left picture of Chadwick Boseman, you wouldn’t assume that he’s an amazing Marvel’s Superhero of Wakanda. #teammarvel #wakandaforeverโฃ
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But having watched the movie Black Panther, you immediately know that he’s a Superhero, which makes him a lot more attractive and badass. ๐Ÿฆธ๐Ÿปโ€โ™‚๏ธโฃ
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If you haven’t watched that movie yet, go watch it now! โฃ
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I’m serious, It’s the best Marvel’s movie ever created and has such an amazing atmosphere.โฃ
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Anyway, back to the topic and our second example.โฃ
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Seeing the left picture of Barack Obama, you wouldn’t assume that he’s a smart, successful man.โฃ
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But knowing everything you know about his life and him having been the president of America, you immediately assume that he’s smart and successful regardless of his looks.โฃ
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Both of those examples show us, that If you’re not famous you need to go an extra mile to convey things like high status, attractiveness, masculinity and intelligence.โฃ
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I hope I could help you to understand the biggest reason why you’re probably not having success in Online Dating. โฃ
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Of course it also depends on other factors, but selecting the perfect pictures is a crucial step and I can’t stress this enough.โฃ
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90% of your profile are picturesโฃ
10% is the bio you writeโฃ
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Yes, pictures are that important.โฃ
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Cheers, โฃ
Sandric